Three common phrases can make relationship conflict worse fast. Learn what to stop saying during arguments—and what to say instead for calmer communication.

Ever feel like you have to resolve an issue immediately? Learn why that urgency leads to worse arguments—and what to do instead.

Think you’re fighting about dishes or money? You’re not. Learn how to uncover what’s really behind your arguments and start communicating in a way that works.

If you’ve ever gotten into an argument with your partner over something small—like dishes in the sink or someone being five minutes late—you’re not alone. In fact, that’s exactly where most couples begin when they come to me for help. They say things like, “We have communication issues,” or “We’re always arguing.” And when I dig a little deeper, it often turns out they’re fighting over the same things again and again. But what if there were one simple rule you could follow